17 Jun The old full glass myth
So, how are you coping? Obviously it’s a time for keeping a cool head, dealing with the now in a controlled and positive manner. And that doesn’t mean hibernation. It’s a time for growth, adapting with the change, and putting a revised plan into action.
It’s interesting watching people’s behavior at the moment. Some people I thought who ‘had it together’ in our pre-COVID era are shi^^*ng themselves. Glued to the television and getting spooked by one exaggerated headline after another.
Then there are some mild-mannered individuals who rarely speak up who have become outspoken and opinionated in a positive way. Stress and fear of the unknown sure do affect different people differently. How we react under pressure are defining moments in our lives.
It reminds me of that vastly overused saying about the glass half full person and the glass half empty person. You know, a ‘glass-half-full person’ is an optimist, someone who always thinks that good things will happen. Meanwhile, as you might imagine, a ‘glass-half-empty person’ is a pessimist, someone who always thinks that bad things will happen.
Some of you who attended my workshops would remember I used to ask for a show of hands when I asked who a half-empty glass person was and who was a half-full glass person.
Very few admitted to half-empty although I suspect there were some too embarrassed to admit it. The vast remainder raised a hand to the optimistic view of half full.
I’d then say “Seriously? You’d be happy with a half-full glass? So if you ordered a schooner (wine or cocktail for the ladies) and you got half a schooner, you’d be happy. Or would you demand the barman top it up?”
I then asked the question “Now, who wants a half-full glass or a full glass?”. Everyone’s hand went up for a full glass. Optimists 1, pessimists 0.
Then I’d say “So how long is the glass going to stay full? After half a dozen guzzles it’s half full. What you need is an overflowing glass. One where, as you guzzle it keeps refilling. Like the parable of the five loaves and fishes that fed a multitude.
I likened the contents of the glass to money. A half-empty glass is when we are struggling, we need more, we want a full glass.
A full glass is where we have enough to give us everything we want – a great lifestyle, whatever that means to you. We’re consuming it and we constantly have to top it up.
An overflowing glass is when we have all the money we need to give us the lifestyle we want but there is constant overflow. That overflow goes to help others in less fortunate situations, wherever our heart leads us.
Of course, that should be a priority whatever the situation with our glass, but it’s hard when we’re barely getting by ourselves. I’ve found most people have a good heart and would like to give more. I’ll tell you the best way to give more – make more yourself.
Let’s say you developed three townhouses (or a splitter, doesn’t matter) and made $400,000 profit, and at settlement siphoned off 10% ($40,000) to the cause of your choice. I can tell you, you won’t miss it. But that $40,000 can massively change or even save lives.
Sorry about that, I digressed from the optimist vs pessimist discussion into one of my pet subjects. For some of you reading this, life has barely changed. Maybe you work from home making hand sanitizer in your garage and a large shareholding in Zoom. Some of you might be a single income family with kids and you’ve lost your job.
How you get through this will depend on how you use the six inches of matter between your ears. It’s sometimes not easy to stay optimistic amongst all the ‘noise’. Thoughts around the economy, property, job security, and mortgages or rent all vie for attention in your thoughts.
I’ve asked Hilary, our Property Mastermind Performance Coach, to write an article and give you positive steps you can take for filling up your cup of optimism. Look for it in the next couple of days.
In the meantime I want you to visualise yourself on the other side of the current situation, say six months on, and you’re telling someone with 100% honesty (parent, friend, child, grandchild whatever) about how you mentally dealt with what you are going through now.
What type of story will it be? Embarrassing? Or one full of strength? Your choice.
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