The importance of knowing what you want.

Hilary Saxton - Goal Setting

The importance of knowing what you want.

Let’s talk Goal Setting….

Stop! I know what you’re thinking. “I’ve heard it all before” or “that’s old”. I know it’s not new, but it is a basic, fundamental law for success in all fields – from losing a few kilos to winning a battle and changing the direction of a war.

So, take this seriously.

Unfortunately, it is a much-maligned phrase – its popularity overtaken by more modern, catchy buzzwords invented by too many so-called “coaches”, spruiking out there with limited training and experience and devaluing its power. Goal setting predates all the greats like Jim Rohn, Tony Robbins, Brian Tracy. Visualise a group of Neanderthals huddled around a fire discussing, or more likely grunting, about their goal to hunt down a mammoth tomorrow, where they would go, what weapons they would use.

So, is it outdated? Never. Does it still work? Hell yes. It’s absolutely essential if you want to get anywhere worthwhile and I’m here to tell you it works – it always has and it always will and if done correctly, it is life-changing.

Not only that, but I also want to resurrect it to its rightful place, reinstate it to the head of the queue. But more than that, I’m going to make it sexy again. The brilliant thing is, once you set a goal, properly I might add, your brain goes on the journey of making it happen in the background. If it is carried out incorrectly, before long you will stop, feeling disillusioned, and slowly it turns back into that wish on your wish list, never to be achieved. That’s the problem with wishes. You need goals and you need to write them down.

In 2004 I wrote a list of eleven goals. No particular reason it was eleven – it was merely the things I wanted to achieve that during that year. They were big and bold and included filming an infomercial for a product I had launched, becoming certified in Pilates, coaching a large number of women in health, weight-loss and self-belief, and loads more. I superseded them all. I flew to America and filmed the infomercial. I was approached to become the face for another company and did loads more. As far as Pilates went, I smashed that goal, became certified, had two studios, a training school for instructors and health professionals, and a manufacturing business for the equipment. A goal without a plan is just a wish – and wishes will get you absolutely nowhere. There are more to big goals than a ‘thing’ and a plan. It’s the mental journey that has to accompany it. It is the WHY. Yes, that is another word that has been watered down and debased when it comes to goal setting.

The question is – Why do you want it? Your why needs to be heartfelt, important to you, something to hold on should you hit the inevitable road bump. Also important are the practices that must happen for you to achieve something big. Practices are the habits and tiny actions you repeat over and over to become the person you need to be to achieve what you want.

Dieting, making money, business, relationships, it doesn’t matter what the goal is. It matters that you become the person you need to be to achieve it. Let’s say you want to develop or renovate a property. You need to become informed and educated in property. You need to be that person.

You might be overweight and unfit. Then you need to become a person who chooses healthy food and exercise.

Maybe you want your own business. Again, trust me. I see why so many fail in the first few years of starting – goalless, rudderless. Having started six, I know what it takes. Here’s the ‘but’… if you don’t do that bit right, you will fail. If you don’t become the person you need to, you will not achieve your goal and it’s more than just knowledge. It is the commitment to the actions. So how is it done correctly?

Let me reinforce “It is as much a mental journey as it is a physical one”. There are things you MUST DO to achieve the good stuff.


To begin with, complete these 3 steps:

  • Write your goals down. It is a scientifically proven fact that you are over 40% more likely to achieve it if you write it down.
  • Tell someone trustworthy (not a dream stealer) about your goals. This adds to the likelihood of your achievement.
  • Visualise it. This is where I could lose some of you. What if I was to say picturing it with the feeling of having successfully achieved it? The elation, feeling of accomplishment.


Do you think Michael Phelps didn’t see every race through in his head multiple times before winning it? He did. The start, every perfect stroke, the flawlessly executed turn, touching the wall, the world record, the gold medal. Then there is the set up of the actions required which is another step that takes focus and commitment. At the end of the day, many people spend more time planning their wedding day than they do their life – ridiculous but true.

Isn’t it time you properly set yourself a goal you want to achieve? This time done with the intention of definitely achieving it? I believe you must have a destination in mind. Otherwise you will wake up in a years’ time and if you haven’t decided on what that goal looks like and how to achieve it you will end up being part of someone else’s goal. Why don’t you work on the rest of this year being freakin’ amazing!!



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