22 Jun Newsflash – Antidote now available.
I’ve released an antidote to all the negative s^it out there. It’s called gratitude. And it’s FREE!
Something has happened to me. Don’t panic, I’m not. It’s a good thing. I’ve become more aware of all the good things in and around me. And I’m feeling more than my usual amount of gratitude.
I touched on it the other day in my regular segment “Beers with Bob” on the Property Developer Secrets and Hacks Facebook group. If you haven’t seen it or want to join click here.
I’m looking out the office window. The sky is blue. Bluer than it was prior to February. The clouds are white and fluffy and seem to be playing catchy with each other.
My eyes are drawn down to the shimmering sunlight on the water, dancing like a thousand tiny fairies. The occasional boat glides by as though time has no meaning.
“Bob’s lost it” you’re thinking “too much property development can drive a man crazy!”. Well, I’m either going crazy at a rapid rate, or I’ve taken on a new improved version of gratitude.
I’m as busy as ever, but I think it’s this soon to expire isolation and the stand I’ve taken against the ill-informed rumor mongers that have triggered this rather enjoyable and exciting feeling that has enveloped me.
I’m concentrating on all the good stuff. My kids are happy and safe, I have a great partner, food is in ready supply, toilet paper is back with a vengeance.
As Tony Robbins says, “When you are grateful, fear disappears, and abundance appears.”
So this gratitude thing I’m enjoying has prompted me to do a little research on the subject. Gratitude, it could be said, is a thankful appreciation for what an individual receives, whether tangible or intangible.
In positive psychology research, gratitude is strongly and consistently associated with greater happiness. Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, improve their health, deal with adversity, and build strong relationships.
Research on gratitude:
Two psychologists, Dr. Robert A. Emmons of the University of California, and Dr. Michael E. McCullough of the University of Miami, have done much of the research on gratitude. In one study, they asked all participants to write a few sentences each week, focusing on particular topics.
One group wrote about things they were grateful for that had occurred during the week. A second group wrote about daily irritations or things that had displeased them, and the third wrote about events that had affected them (with no emphasis on them being positive or negative).
After 10 weeks, those who wrote about gratitude were more optimistic and felt better about their lives. Surprisingly, they also exercised more and had fewer visits to physicians than those who focused on sources of aggravation.
So internal gratitude (us being grateful) is great for us and external gratitude (expressed by us to others) is great for us and the others. Like a joint venture in goodness.
Here are five benefits of sharing your appreciation externally to others.
1. Your mindset changes. When you change your mindset to look for the good instead of the bad in the people around you, you begin to notice just how fantastic they are.
2. Your mood improves. Psychologists have long touted how our mood and daily outlooks change when we focus on positive things rather than negative. Simply removing negative words from your vocabulary can have a tremendous effect on your mood. Imagine the impact using positive words to appreciate another person could have on your mood.
3. Your ability to innovate improves. Research shows that employees, who recognize their team members, experience a 33% increase in innovation.
4. You build trust in relationships. Even the neuroscientists are proving that recognition builds trust. Recognition has the largest effect on trust when it occurs immediately after a goal has been met, when it comes from peers, and when it’s tangible, unexpected, personal, and public.”
5. You increase your effectiveness. Does giving recognition have a direct impact on results? You better believe it. Research shows that employees who give recognition experience a 22% increase in work results.
So, there you have it. The jury is still out on whether I’m going mad or not, but honestly, I don’t really care. I’m in my bubble and enjoying it.